Will It Find Me?
Just want to express something thats been playing in my mind lately. It is the changing perspectives we have when looking for love. I think there is two specturms to it. On one end of the specturm is the hoping that love will just appear out of nowhere like a shooting meteor straight into the heart. Hopefully, after the smoke has cleared you have a keeper.:) But the suitor must obviously meet the high prerequisites that have been set and calibarated with the latest media pop shows and glam magazines. I called this the falling in love spectrum. It is unplanned, coincidental that you happen to meet the dream chum or chick. This person usually meets 80% of your selection criteria.
The other specturm is lets make it work love. Its like taking square cube and trying to fit it into a round hole in the wall. Alot of character shaving and compromising has to be done in order to turn that square of a person into the thorb of your heart:).
So when did we move from falling in love spectrum to lets make it work love. I think initially, we are all at the first spectrum. Its in the nature of all human beings and that god has placed dreams in us to want the best. Interestingly, we already have images our dream dude or dudett at very tender age (toddler). We burn the images of the dream person into our mind based on the people we have positive associations with. This becomes hard wired and we see ourselves going for the same kind of looks even after 20 years. Don't know whether this theory is true but its seem logical if you ponder on it.
I think if we haven't found love, we slowly move from the first specturm to the second spectrum. This due to our innate programming that wants us to procreate and have permenant social associations. This progression is direclty linked our biological clock. As we mature and age, we generally move further and further to the other specturm because of our natural calling to be a socially dependent.
Just an observation:)
posted by edii @ 5:34 PM
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couldnt help to post it here... ;P, avien
Spectrum of Love-
Walter Rinder
There is a much greater motivation than simply my spoken words.
For me to love, is to commit myself, freely and without reservation. I am sincerely interested in your happiness and well being. Whatever your needs are, I will try to fulfill them and will bend in my values depending on the importance of your need. If you are lonely and need me, I will be there. If in that loneliness you need to talk, I will listen. If you need to listen, I will talk. If you need the strength of human touch, I will touch you. If you need to be held, I will hold you. I will lie naked in body with you if that be your need. If you need fulfillment of the flesh, I will give you that also, but only through my love.
I will try to be constant with you so that you will understand the core of my personality and from that understanding you can gain strength and security that I am acting as me. I may falter with my moods. I may project, at times, a strangeness that is alien to you which may bewilder or frighten you. There will be times when you question my motives. But because people are never constant and are as changeable as the seasons, I will try to build up within you a faith in my fundamental attitude and show you that my inconsistency is only for the moment and not a lasting part of me. I will show you love now. Each and every day, for each day is a lifetime. Every day we live, we learn more how to love. I will not defer my love nor neglect it, for if I wait until tomorrow, tomorrow never comes. It is like a cloud in the sky, passing by. They always do, you know!
If I give you kindness and understanding, then I will receive your faith. If I give hate and dishonesty, I will receive your distrust. If I give you fear and am afraid, you will become afraid and fear me. I will give to you what I need to receive.
The degree of love I give is determined by my own capability. My capability is determined by the environment of my past existence and my understanding of love, truth and God. My understanding is determined by my parents, friends, places I have lived and been. Each experience is fed into my mind from living.
I will give you as much love as I can. If you show me how to give more, then I will give more. I can only give as much as you need to receive or allow me to give. If you receive all I can give, then my love is endless and fulfilled. If you receive a portion (part) of my love, then I will give others the balance I am capable of giving. I must give all that I have, being what I am.
Love is universal. Love is the movement of life. I have loved a boy, a girl, my parents, art, nature. All things in life I find beautiful. No human being or society has the right to condemn any kind of love I feel or my way of expressing it, if I am sincere; sincerity being the honest realization of myself without hurt or pain for my life or any life my life touches.
I want to become a truly loving spirit. Let my words, if I must speak, become the restoration of your soul. But when speech is silent, does a man project the great depth of his sensitivity. When I touch you, or kiss you, or hold you, I am saying a thousand words.
Walter Rinder
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